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Myth 1:  Introverts despise communication.
Well if you’re reading this blog, than that myth has already been partially busted. Introverts will not engage you in a conversation for the sake of it. Majority (since nothing is 100% certain) will initiate a conversation sincerely and only if a circumstance requires that they must. However; initiate a conversation with certain degree of insight and without blatant ignorance and they will happily engage you for days.

 Myth 2: Introverts hate small talk

This myth is greatly being exaggerated. On the contrary, introverts like small talk. We do it all the time especially with those in our inner circus. However, it is very likely that the choice of subject and timing is wholly inappropriate especially; if the subject of choice is associated with ones intended sexual conquest, night club antics or demeaning views. Opinion and behaviour backed up with good reasoning will earn you listening time from us and save you from our damnation.

 Myth 3: Introverts are shy by nurture.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not afraid of interacting with others, they simply need a reason to do so. (See myth 1) However, if you want to engage an introvert in a conversation, simply engage them and don’t worry about being polite, just don’t be ignorant in your opinion.

 Myth 4: Introverts despise people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value those they consider true friends . They simply appreciate certain trait (each to their own) of which they hold dear, possessed by the few they’ve come across. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

 Myth 5: Introverts do not like public outing.
Says who:  Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth 6: Introverts always want to be alone

Nonsense. No human being desires eternal loneliness. Such desire is the result of an unfortunate experience triggered directly and indirectly by a third-party.  Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts and are commonly daydreamers. They enjoy problem solving task and can get lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

 Myth 7: Introverts are Rude.
Introverts are not crowd pleaser and think for themselves. As a result they would often challenge perceived norm. When they choose to take a stand; they are at their best intellectually. Those threatened often perceive this as rudeness due to their authority being challenge. Also introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries however when they do, they do mean it. So don’t fish for one and just by real.

Myth 8: Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, most introvert are already too familiar with developments around them it becomes less stimulating and fulfilling.

Myth 9: Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Well, If there is anything introverts do extremely well, relaxing certainly would be it. Since they spend so much time re-energizing and relaxing (see my previous blog titled “In solitude we dwell). As for having fun, i say fun is what you make it. One man’s fun is another man’s trial. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies nor are extroverts however they will try something’s at least once for the experience. Fun is what you make of it..

Myth 10: Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. They certainly would appreciate it if they ae appreciated for their novel way of living.

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As I found  out; i have a unique temperament commonly associated with introversion. Well, that’s no news, having always been aware that I am uniquely different (generalisation).

For those that are wondering, what is introversion?

Most people (introverts) are already too familiar with existing definition. The flaws with this is only realised when you try explaining its meaning to their opposite number (extroverts).

However! The answer is simple. The definition is as accurate as the person who defines it.  To define introversion as accurately as possible, one must truly understand what it is to be an introvert. The problem with this is that unlike lots of things in life of which you can acquire knowledge and expert understanding through years of studies and dedication, defining introversion comes with certain element of bias more or less so, if it is being defined by an extrovert, less so if defined by an introvert.  For instance, Dr David Myers, a social psychology in his book titled “The Pursuit of Happiness” claimed that happiness require the possession of three trait: optimism, self-esteem and extroversion. He based his conclusion on a study he claimed “prove” extrovert are happier. No surprise there especially if the questions been asked includes: I like to be with others or I am fun to be with. There are two problems here. 1} he is either an extroverts (which brings a whole new prospective to his conclusion) 2} Lacks of understanding on introversion. Because definition of happiness varies from person to person and most vastly different for introverts and extroverts.

While extensive research on introversion has been conducted, with great emphasis on the psychological and neurological pathway of the physiological makeup of introverts which has contributed to our understanding of the introverted process. It is almost conclusive that these researches would be deemed near useless to our counterpart (extrovert). Since understanding such a complex process is beyond the realm of their character unless their curiosity is driven by various factors directly rewarding to their personal gratification.

I am extremely concerned with the current effort and existing definition of introversion by social academia. While unaware introverts are discovering that they are introverts through various information outlet aided by studies conducted by department such as psychology and neurology to which credits are due, there is a great danger that their effort could have an opposite effect on the existing masses and only fuel further stigmatization and alienation on an already small group. This partly because the terms psychologist and neurologist are commonly misconstrued and associated with subject with neurological disturbance and emotional imbalance. Even more complex is explaining what it is in layman’s term. Because these segment of society are more likely to bear the brunt of alienation and stigmatization that would arise from any such outcome. This with the existing knowledge of social behaviours and groups, extroverts largely find association with like-minded extroverts within various settings the norm and vice visa.  Continuation of these definitions could lead to a path of no return, just like other existing groups within our society (gay, elders, disabled etc) are finding out. Attempt to explain introversion using existing definition has proved challenging. This I believe is a common problem. An alternative definition needs to be sought and fast before it’s too late knowing human natures, once it sticks it will become part of the fabric of our society.

Either way, introverts are faced with a variety of obstacles

Firstly; in order to truly accept once introvertededness one must accept its existence and its true meaning. I say “Existance” because it is very easy to be influenced under certain situation as most people find out when in a state of increased gratification (i.e. partying) arouses some extroverted trait, which in turn arouses self-doubt about oneself (your introvertedness). Contrary to popular belief, introversion is not shyness, nor laziness, nor being a loner or anti-social. It is a form of temperament commonly identified by various characteristics  in every one of us, but embedded to the extreme in a few of us.  Introversion knows no boundaries. It identifies with no country, continent, culture, race, gender or age.

It is a way of life and who we are. As for “Me. I give you an alternative definition. For Myself: it’s an alternative way of living from an introverts prospective & I” am an introvert and proud..

Stay true,  Stay Proud, Stay Introverted..!!

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